BEAUTY OF RESOLVE

The beginning of June. Incredibly, but we're already in the middle of the year. I always have the impression that the first six months last too long and as soon as we get to the summer, the rest flies by like a blink of an eye and we're awaiting the new year. This month is perfect to pause briefly and to look back at our New Year's decisions. How their fruition is progressing? I remember that my friend, while we were young girls, said that all of them, owing to New Year's Eve magic, inevitably transforms into reality. However, I believe that we must head in their direction and take certain actions, otherwise it's all for naught. It's interesting how many people are hasty and immediately, at the very moment, from January 1st enthusiastically dives into activity, but that's like starting a marathon with a sprint – before long you'll become fatigued, falter, halt or possibly quit. Gyms perhaps most graphically illustrates the matter, they're crowded in January, in February that number decreases considerably, while in March you can only seen those truly devoted and persistent. So, for me, June is the ideal time to answer a few questions: which of New Year's decisions we have actualized, which are yet in the process, which ones we've dismissed or even forgot; we still have half year ahead of us and just need to dare. It's essential to devise a strategy, because, according to an unknown author, „a dream is a dream, but a goal is a dream with a plan and a deadline“, meaning that we're obliged to work diligently on New Year's resolutions and not to rely on figurative charms and instant solutions. Ther are two types of decisions, those by which we try to implement a habit or a hobby in our routine, whether regular training, meditation, reading, walks, increased intake of water, daily application of body creams after showering, home spa treatments etc, and those regarding conceived fulfillment of a concrete task that we've set for ourselves. The former remains with us throughout lifetime and this article is oriented towards them, while the latter, upon reaching the objective, is being replaced by upcoming short-term ambitions.

I admit that earlier I wasn't exactly skillful in execution of what I'm describing, I've constantly made too much decisions, striving to achieve it all at once, but as soon something went awry at one level I would thought this is it, a mistake, and I'd abandon everything. Prerequisites for success are laser-sharp focus, one hundred percent concentration and operativity, sparing of mere half hour or hour each day for that purpose, small steps to desired destiantion, until they emerge as an integral part of our everyday lives. If we commence with anything, stumble and leave it for the next day or week, they easily turn into two or three and then it's very hard to reverse to the onset. There's no tragedy in falling down, the problem is to not rise up and it's OK to say to oneself: tomorrow is a new day, I have a fresh chance and I'll continue. In Jack Canfield's book „How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be“ I've found an excellent strategy that I've been employing ever since and with a help of which I've accomplished all of my ideas. It's fairly simple and based on forming a maximum of four decisions that you'll carry out in one year. Namely, research shows that twenty one day of quotidian practice is required to incorporate a single habit, while approximately three months is necessary to adopt a particular behavior, after which it turns into lifelong constituent. Let's observe a decision to train for example, the point is not to exercise for a month or two prior to summer in order to look attractive in swimsuit, rather to keep exercising during the whole year and feel good and comfortable in your own body. Of course there will be times when we'll be tired and wish to stay in bed and skip training, but then we should persevere more then ever, because in those instances the self-discipline and dedication is evidenced. The reward shall be pride for our enduring will and reminder that the loss of motivation is nothing more than current and passing state of dispiritedness. When we perceive that we've paved a way for some idiosyncrasy to our personality and can no longer function without it, the we are free to switch to another one.

Decisive people evidently emanates a distinctive kind of inner beauty, a special glow radiates from their eyes and the vision of already attained goal from which they draw strength that pushes them forward by the day. The triumph is materialized in understanding and almost religious conducting of specific, uncomplicated and established habits, and grasping it demands focussed action, personal discipline and a significant amount of energy. The habitudes that we nurture from now on will ultimately determine the prospect of our future. I hope that this text brought the attention to your New Year's decisions or the ones that lingers in your mind for quite a while. Recall them, go through them again, create a plan and fearlessly jump into realization. It's never too late!