DOING WHAT YOU LOVE & LOVING WHAT YOU DO


„When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down 'happy'. They told me I didn't understand the assignment, and I told them they didn't understand life.“ These words by John Lennon thoroughly changed my life. I admit that earlier I've observed happiness as an evanescent flash of light which flares from time to time, suddenly appears and equally swiftly vanishes, usually conditioned by some achievement  or effectuation. Life seemed like a darkly night sky sprinkled with stars that symbolized those bright instances of happiness. Often I heard statements that when I finish school I'll be happy because I will no longer had obligations, and later the same sentence applied to college. When I graduated, that day indeed was accompanied by a sensation of happiness, but it slowly faded away by the next morning. Soon new proclamations of „wisdom“ began to pile up, for example 'when you get a job you'll be happy'. That eventuate too, but I all the same wondered am I happy and the answer was no, although I was doing what as a little girl I considered to be fairy-tale vocation. I frequently ponder why people link their happiness with certain attainments an I increasingly realize that the root lies in teachings of our ancestors, in some established and inveterated order that is passed from generation to generation, and which supposedly, per se should assume life happiness: school, college, job, marriage, children. I don't blame them, their parents planted those norms in them as well, but in such scheme I fail to see much scope for the questions that everyone should ask themselves: am I really happy and what I want from life? I once read about the experiment with five monkeys in the cage with a ladder and the banana on top. If one went for the banana, the others were splashed with cold water. The scientists repeated the procedure each time one of the monkeys began to climb, until they all gave up and just look at the banana, despite the temptation to reach it. Then they introduced a new ape and he immediately tried to get the food, but others pulled him down. The same fate befall on all following ones that replaced the first group: none of the original monkeys remain in the cage, but they didn't dare to ascent the ladder or were prevented in doing so. If monkeys could speak and if someone asked why they don't go for the banana, the answer would probably be 'I don't know, that's what they tought us and I'm doing what everybody else do', but, in fact, nobody remembers the real reason. Similar happened to us humans – as if we adopted the routine that happiness is unwinnable and that those who do what they love are exceptionally rare. The majority is stressed at work nowadays and this unfortunately became a normal state, and if you assert something different, people gaze at you almost flabbergasted.
Simon Sinek said: „Working hard for something we don't care about is called stress; working hard for something we love is called passion.“, and in my opinion most accurately defined the global cause of stress. When choosing future profession, young people decide under pressure for the ones that is regarded in society as esteemed. In my surroundings these are physicians and lawyers, and there's a fixed practice that children of doctors automatically study medicine for themselves. Parents direct them with the explanation that it is best for them, without estimation whether they're happy for it, ie they expect the offspring to live their lives and fulfill their ambitions, which is utterly wrong – everyone is in charge of their own dreams, regardless of age, it's never too late. In order to please them, children falter and neglect what they sincerely love, with a thought of coming back to it later, but that seldom came to fruition. One of my friends was an exceptional pianist and he wanted to enroll at musical academy, but his parents instantly averted his plans saying that there's no prosperity in that and that it's more prudent to study economy. He complied, finished his education and found a job as an accountant, however he's not happy. My other friend, a doctor, constantly complains of how tired she is and that she will rest only when she retires. All this proves that even the „popular“ occupations doesn't guarantee happiness. Any position, unless we select it on our own and that we verily love, can emerge as a potential source of stress. This relates to the outwardly and seemingly fantastic ones too: fashion designers, actors, musicians – just how much of them, despite all the glamor and fans, breaks under stress or turn to various vices. 
Would you still be doing something if you weren't payed for doing it? I deem that a crucial point and essential onset when electing an occupation, which is very significant segment of our lives. Given that we spend eight hours at it quotidianly, then we must be sure that we are doing what makes us happy. Otherwise the stress and nervousness will produce negative impact on other aspects of our everyday life – relationship, marriage and relations with our closest. Steve Jobs declared: „Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it.“ Financial security, stability, fame, reputation and approval from others has firmly grasped the presidency and dictates the decisions, without assessment whether something is in harmony with our nature and personality and how will ultimately affect our spiritual and physical health. Nothing and nobody will make us happy except for ourselves, others can contribute, but it's all in vain if we're unhappy from within. We musn't fall into a trap and believe that happiness is the unapproachable and abstract concept – at any moment and in every life situation we are its creator. Les Brown summed it up remarkably: „The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.” Don't be one of those persons, bravely sail out to the high seas, toward what awakes happines in you, guided by emotions. You owe it to yourself to do what you love and to be happy.

35 comments:

  1. I couldn't agree more with this post! I love being a blogger and a stylist and I continue to play my flute which is also a passion of mine. Thanks so much for this inspirational post!

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  2. I think the time for being happy is always NOW :) I agree we all should do what we love and be happy :) Thanks for this post!
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  3. Wow, this is such a gorgeous and thought-provoking read beautiful babe, and I couldn't agree more whole-heartedly with everything you wrote here. I am all about chasing dreams and believe everyone should fulfil their desires and hopes in life. Nothing is more heartbreaking than when others are discouraged from their dreams by others, it's a waste and a shame to say the least. The route I've chosen can often be testing but I'm finally putting my dreams first after years of working in miserable jobs that I couldn't even pretend to stand any more. Life's too short to be stuck in a career or lifestyle we hate. I always believe that as long as we have faith in ourselves, are willing to work hard and never give up, that anything in the world is possible! ♥︎♥︎♥︎

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  4. This is such a great question. It's hard not to put the focus on money, but it's true that money doesn't give you all the happiness.
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    Jodie

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  5. Your mom was so right and I'm with you... all I want is happiness.

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  6. Definitely doing what we really love is so important. We live only once and we shouldn't allow other people to create our way of life and don't do anything just because other do this.

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  7. Unfortunately, not every person has the luck or the opportunity to choose a profession that he or she loves. My parents had little money. My brother was allowed to study and to become teacher (and he loved his job), but there was not enough money for a second studying child. And certainly not for an artistic (breadless) profession. (I liked to paint and I liked to write, those were the only significant talents I had.) I was 15 and not good at school, so I had to do an office education. I worked in offices for 41 years and I never enjoyed it. But I was always aware to live my dreams - getting to know foreign countries, experiencing adventures, enjoying nature - and with my not-beloved job I earned enough money through to give myself a life that I love: my family and I were able to make wonderful journeys, we have a (small) house with a beautiful garden and I call myself a happy person. And I have and always had enough time to write and paint (but I never earned enough money with it.) On the other hand, I met people who chased their dream job and never achieved happiness. Now I am retired and finally free. Sometimes happiness is going strange ways...
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  8. This is such a thought provoking piece! Happiness is the only thing I think we all really want and need at the end of the day and it's this that should be at the heart of what we do.

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  9. Completely agree with this! Doing something we don't love brings us down.

    Jennifer
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  10. I definitely think I will still do something even if I'm not paid to do it. It's how I started my blog. Regardless if I make any money, I still continue to do it as long as I love it.

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  11. Predivan tekst i odlična analiza društevnog stanja i problema. Mislim da uvijek trebamo težiti tome da radimo ono što volimo. Potraga za srećom je složena, ali moguća. Ne mora to uvijek biti drastičan potez, ponekad nije ni pametno odmah dati otkaz na nekom poslu koji nas ne oduševljava, ponekad treba i polako doći do toga cilja, ali se svakako treba pokrenuti i ne zadovoljavati se manjim.

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  13. Totally agree about sress and passion!
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    Kisses, Paola.

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  14. Que postagem maravilhosa, gostei muito.
    Beijinhos

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  15. So beautiful what John Lennon said!

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  16. Our life without being happy is so sad and gloomy. A person can have the best job, a lot of money but without happiness everything is hard and we become pessimistic.

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  17. Everyone wants to be happy right? And often happiness is in small details of the day to day, we just need to pay attention :)
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  18. I think finding a passion project/career is really important- you have to love what you do, because the work is still going to be hard! If you don't like it, it makes the work intolerable.

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  20. I agree - we should do what makes us happy! I have days where I'm frustrated with my job but overall getting to work with the team I do and making the things we do I'm happy most of the time - and my job is really flexible with letting me care for my boys, that make me the happiest! :)

    I hope that you are having a great week so far :)

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  21. Totally agree babe in doing something we love1! The lipstick shades are gorgeous.


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    Lovely
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  23. I actually love being a blogger, because I'm that kid in school that couldn't complete attendance because I am allergic to everything so I am always sick. But because of blogging I can work at home, no health risks :) And yes, because I like it so much sometimes I do work where I don't get paid like when I receive products for reviews. And I don't also ask for payment for those so I can be comfortable to be brutally honest with the product.

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  24. I absolutely love that quote by John Lennon and can't agree more. Your passions remain as your passion throughout your life and things you want to pursue when you're younger, you still want to pursue them when you're older, but you just end up starting later. Passion gives you purpose in going after and creating a life you want for yourself.

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  25. Doing what we love is so important! Love this inspirational post!

    Jill - Doused in Pink

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  28. So beautifully written! Thanks for the lovely read dear. And yes, I'd love to check out these products, especially the Unique liquid facial soap.

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  29. I LOVE this post. It's so inspirational. I agree that doing something you don't love creates stress, while doing something you love creates passion.

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  30. I love all those eloquent quotes that you referenced! I was hit with the importance of following your passion once I graduated college; anything besides following your passion seemed pointless. I'm still on the journey to figure out what my passion is though -Audrey | Brunch at Audrey's

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  31. I agree with those who love their jobs and are making income at the same time are the happiest. The problem sometimes is not everything we love to do can make us earn a living which is really crucial if there are children depending on you. But I guess, if you keep looking where you can achieve both then you will find it eventually.


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  32. I have mixed feelings about this topic. I feel like this is contemplated by the first world. The first world who has the time and money to ponder this. We always here about following your passion but I do not agree %100. Hopefully you do not have to do something you hate but following your passion has it's draw backs big time. For every success story you hear there are double, triple, and quadruple the stories that you don't hear about "following your passion" that do not work out. Not everyone can work in fashion, sports, or be a star even in the first world.

    I think it is better to find something that is a balance of something that brings some satisfaction and pays well and where there is plenty of opportunity. Today in particular where having a creative outlet is so easy. Everyone now can shoot with a digital camera, or learn to shoot and edit video or create their own space online. One does not need to get this via employment anymore. We keep hearing about how hard millennials have it but in some ways things have super easy for them. Though three decades from now is another story...

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  33. Those words couldn't be more true! Happiness is key! I fully believe it! Without happiness, our lives are not good. What you said is similar to what Prince EA said on his video not long ago, about how we think we will be happy once we do this or that, but in reality, we need to make it ourselves.
    Raindrops of Sapphire

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