BEAUTY OF LISTENING


Hearing is an inexplicably wonderful and priceless sense with which we are blessed. By virtue of it, we're able to appreciate the most graceful echoes of nature, twitter of birds, sprinkle of rain, murmur of waves, chimes of wind, a comprehensive rhapsody of the universe, as well as magnificent operatic compositions, majestic melodies of classical music, striking, powerful and monumental timbres that elevates us beyond space and time, words of our beloved ones that are the elixir to our soul. I could continue to infinity because it enriches our lives on so many levels, and often it's the cornerstone of human relations. Thanks to it we can hear what others intend to convey and it's frequently emphasized that it is perhaps more important than ability to speak – we have two ears and only one mouth, which means that we should listen twice as much. However, I'm afraid that this is not the case nowadays and that it has become a commonplace to divulge even offensive opinions, unnecessary and unconstructive criticism without any hesitation whatsoever. Of course that it's perfectly justified to have a freedom to express your own inclinations, but I'm increasingly under the impression that everybody is just talking, while no one is listening to anybody. I would graphically describe it as a crowd where each individual laments about himself and his petty and frivolous problems or spreads rumors and slanders at the expens of others, producing a deafening noise in which it's impossible to recognize anyone's voice. Dalai Lama has stated: „When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new.“ These sage sentences are indeed well-aimed, but somehow it seems to me that certain characters are so conceited and assured of their intelligence and knowledge that they have no need to listen to the fellow man. Stephen R. Covey, author of „The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People“, proposed a very interesting theory: a multitude don't listen to comprehend and adopt something of value, rather to disperse obtained information, especially if it's some juicy gossip. We witness it every single day, from yellow press which is based on distasteful news to social networks with no less shameful and obnoxious posts, and as if the masses can hardly wait to pass it on, with everybody hearing, extracting and multiplying only what suits them.
Apart from one extreme where there's no culture of listening, there is another in which people don't even try to communicate. On countless occasions I've seen a group at the same table covered in the cloak of silence because everyone is fanatically staring at their smartphone, seldom interjected with periodical „look at this“ or by sharing some video or photo. Also, whatever societal interaction is involved, there is inevitabely a moment like „this is important and urgent, I have to check it out“. Technology has provided us with connectivity as never before, the possibility to call our family and friends from vast distances and whenever wish to, but paralelly it has separeted us tremendously. We've stooped to the degree of slaves of our own creation, and the shiny gadgets governs our awareness and behavior. Regardless of the type of gathering, as soon as the audio signal announces itself, everything else disappears and people like addicts immediately ignore the person before them, who speaks to them, with the famous banality „keep talking, I'm listening to you“. But they don't, not in the way in which they wouldn't omit on something significant that we might reveal. When eye contact is lost and attention wanders off, I feel like I'm talking to the wall. Maybe I'm being too strict and harsh, but when I'm having a cup of coffee or taking a walk with somebody, I make sure to turn off all tone alarms and devote myself to my current company. Missed call, message, Facebook or Instagram notifications can wait, the world will not blast into oblivion if we doesn't respond at once.
Listening to others is one of the secrets of success. In that regard, Bernard Baruch cites: Most of successful people I've known are the ones who do more listening, than talking.“ We learn and gain wisdom by listening, as the brilliant musician Jimi Hendrix articulated, while Ernest Hemingway asserted: „I like to listen. I have learned a great deal form listening carefully. Moste people never listen.“ I absolutely support this and despite the obviousness, I remark with sadness that Hemingway was right – a huge number of people just don't know how or don't want to listen. Sometimes listening is enough to help a person, but without interruption and quick advices and solutions, with self control and understanding. As a shy teenager, it was hard for me to start a discussion or function properly in the spotlight, I preferred to dwell on the side and observe. I don't know if you've noticed, but the word listen is composed out of same letters as silent. Don't get me wrong, I'm not advocating submissive listening to others, it's utterly welcomed to form your persuasions loud and clear, in particular if you disagree with something or if it's in conflict with your principles, but we must allow the same to everyone and make effort to consider their point of view. Also, if anyone is wasting your time incessantly verbalizing identical topics and quasi-difficulties, without any plan to change their life circumstances, then is not prudent to remain mute. Dean Jackson illustrated listening as the art that demands focus over talent, spirit over ego and others over ourselves. We all bear it within, the only task is acceptance of this virtue. It really isn't complicated to listen with empathy, to have a conversation that will ennoble us, teach us, bring a smile to our face and ultimately produce fond and cherishable memories. The key is mutual giving and receiving, reverence, alternating speaking and listening, the veritable one that is an excellence of inner beauty. The quieter you are, the more you will hear and believe that the reward won't elude you, with such attitude people will open up to you more easily and remember you as someone who genuinely and sincerely care.

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  3. I do agree with everything you just wrote. Listening is so important and yet good listeners are rare. A good listener is really present in the moment but doesn't judges the person he is listening or rushes with the advice. Listening is almost an art, it takes an open mind to truly listen because only by listening carefully we can learn something new and open our mind to new possibilities.

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  5. Great subject, I have similar approach and always when I spend time with my family or friends I ignore my phone. I like to listen especially persons which are important for me or these who have something wise to say. It's really important to be able to listen to others, it bulids true and strong relationships.

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  8. A very thoughtful post and I completely agree. Sometimes all we need is for someone to listen, likewise sometimes we should just listen to others. I love the quotes you've included here too. There's definitely wisdom to be learnt by taking a moment to listen x

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  23. Very true. True listening requires a huge degree of selflessness, too. In this day and age of "Look at me!", it's hard to find true listeners. I love that someone figured out that listen and silent are made up of the same letters - there is a lesson there. I try to ignore my phone when I'm with friends or at dinner. It's really hard to disconnect, though. Funny story. At the funeral of a friend, his wife's phone started playing a bouncy little '50s song (its ring tone). She couldn't get to it so she kind of sat on her purse to stifle it. I do hope I always remember to turn the ringer off at funerals :/

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  31. What a beautiful post! So deep and introspective and I loved the subject. Listening is a forgotten thing nowadays. You can learn so much about people by just listening and being there for them. Sometimes that's all you need to do a for a friend to form a bond. But they have to do the same for you, too. Listening in relationships goes both ways.

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  36. I do think good listeners are rare; we aren't taught to foster than skill as much anymore- and we should!

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